I haven't seen my girlfriend since Tuesday morning, because she is on lock down at a medical research facility doing a clinical trial. (I'll talk more about that later.) Her cell phone was confiscated when she got there because it has a camera on it, so the only way we've been able to communicate is via IM, but it's hard to time it so we are both on at the same time. Or we communicate by e-mail. I get my e-mail on my Blackberry so it's basically like texting for me, but she of course has to log into a pc. She's there another 5 days.

Anyway, I've been going nuts not seeing her and thought of a great idea tonight. I hauled ass over to the building she is locked up in, and had her go to the window on the 2nd floor computer room that she was in (by telling her via e-mail).

I pulled out my iPad and gave her a message, "in person" using an app on the iPad called iBanner HD!

I could see her smile so big through the window, but when I waved and put my hand over my heart she didn't move... come to find out the windows are really tinted so she couldn't see me at all, only the iPad screen and the message going across it. I could see her because the room was back lit. Awwwww. She loved it! I saw her wipe a tear or two! Haha I saw other people look out the window too. They were probably like WOW, lucky goyl!

Anyway, so what are some cool ways you've said I love you?

Here's the message!

2 black eyes is the perfect way of saying that...

Nothin' says lovin' like standin' by the oven, so shut up and make my fuckin' supper.

2 black eyes is the perfect way of saying that...

Nah, one's enough ...
I rarely have to tell my bitches anything twice ...

They were probably like WOW, lucky goy!

Anyway, I am pretty disappointed that she decided to be a human guinea pig, when after the first screening day the guy giving out details said it was the longest list of potential negative side-effects he's ever encountered. The medical facility company has been around 25 years.

Check out http://www.humira.com and read the side effects. The trial she is a part of is a very high dosage of Humira, to determine how it affects the body and the safety of it. I guess people on the currently-approved-by-the-FDA regular dose Humira, forget to take their shots, etc because you have to keep giving your self a shot in the abdomen fairly frequently. The trial is to see if you can do one huge dose and limit the number of times you have to get injections.

She got the shot last Wednesday, and hasn't really felt any different/worse than before, so hopefully she got the placebo.

Multiply the side-effects from http://www.humira.com by 10 and add in things like the potential to develop certain types of cancer, potential neurological damage, major infections, TB, flu, cardiovascular and pulmonary risks (lung diseases, heart failure), permanent numbness or tingling in legs, etc.... she's healthy now, but who knows what could happen in the long-term with this if she did in fact get the large dosage shot.

She's had a hard time finding a job, and needs money, so that's why she's doing it. 9 nights, then 10 follow up visits (15 mins each for blood draws) for $4,400. Ultimately, it's her body and her life.

I'd do it if it had a lower amount of side effects ...

Ugh, fuck that.

Does she actually have RA or Crohns?

I'd do it and then try to breed, Geek Love style.

I wonder if anal is better on those drugs ...

Nah, she has neither RA or Chrohns. The study is to determine how a large dose of Humira affects the body of a healthy individual, and if it's safe. Scary huh?

Instead of going through other threads and updating you all on things, I'll just lump it all in this one.

The biggest news is that she moved in with me, a couple of months ago. Things are going pretty well, except that I wish somebody would call her back for a job interview. She sits at home all day and surfs the net, etc. and she tends to get stir crazy sometimes.

There's so much I could say to that, but she doesn't need my input

Does she surf for goat porn?

Shouldn't they test it on prisoners first? Maybe they already did...

Thursday (when she gets out) can't get here soon enough.

So, I have some issues I want to discuss. I need to find out if it's me who is the problem, or my girlfriend.

She's the type of girl who has "a lot" of guy friends. She says she's always been more comfortable talking to guys. I've heard this before, and sure I agree guys are easier to talk to. But sometimes it bothers me, that she chats, or texts with her male friends, all of who I am sure want to fuck her. I mean what guy wants to be friends with a girl, unless he's queer, right? Is it OK that it bothers me, or am I being overly jealous?

Second thing, I definitely have the right to be jealous about. Her ex-boyfriend. They went out for a year some years back, but they still have mutual friends and she'll go over to hang out with said friends and her ex-boyfriend is there as well. I met him at such a shinding a couple of months ago. He looked surprised that she introduced me as her boyfriend -- I guess he didn't know I was going to be there. Anyway, so they still communicate and they are still good friends. This pisses me off to no end, and I'm going to mention the fact soon, but I want to bring it up as gently as possible. The one thing that really pissed me off was about a month ago she said she was going to go over to her buddy's house, and automatically said "You probably don't want to go do you?" to me. Which most of the time is true, because I am not a socialite. But this time I was like ya know, actually that would be cool. Then she immediately follows up with, oh but "XXXXXX" will be there. (Her ex) Like she wasn't going to tell me unless I said I was going to go. I've brought up the fact that I don't feel comfortable around him. It just feels weird, being next to a dude that's banged your girlfriend and that your girlfriend was in love with at one point in her past. So I didn't go.

Anyway... thoughts?

Cincinnati bowtie for the ex... that is your only option.

Which one?

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=cincinnati%20bowtie

Welcome to the fun world of "being in a relationship with someone you're probably not going to marry

I'll try to save you 5 years of painful mistakes and regret by saying that the correct choice is to trust your girl until the earlier of

• you catch her in the act, and dump her ass cold
• one of you gets sick of the other and you both move on

... if you think through the daily interactions you would both experience then I hope you realize not trusting each other is a waste of time.

Plus, show a bit of ego, dude. She's with you for a reason. You don't have to pour out your heart and soul about this stuff, but it's OK to ask her not to invite you unless she really wants to you go along.

It's not quite that complicated. You tie her to a chair and gag her. Then, one by one, you bring in all her exs and guy friends and kill them in front of her. After the first 6 she'll either see the devotion you have for her and decide that male friends are not the best idea, or she'll scream uncontrollably into the gag until you have to cut her throat just to shut her up.

Seriously, are you living in the 1950s again? I have plenty of female friends with whom I have no intention of any physical contact. Grow up, man.

Gracias.

I agree with Zooms and Underclass on the whole get over it thing. She has male friends. Deal with it.
Not all dudes want to bang your girlfriend so you're gonna want to get over that real quick or just call it quits now.

As for exs. Well. See, the Geek of five, or even three years ago would have said: Her ex is her friend. Get over it Stop being a cry baby.

But no way, man. I don't play the significant ex (Hookups and short terms are excusable) game anymore. Too many times I've found current boyfriends have been fooling around behind my back with their exs, or their exs are up our shit, or my current is up his ex's shit and I didn't know it. Oh god the LIES, LIES, LIES! After countless fucking around, lying, emails, letters, texts and calls I put the stop on exs starting with Detroit. Exs are fucking DRAMA. i don't want it or need it. Oh and this includes my ex's too. I don't play the "He can do it but I won't" game either.

SO. Out of my exs  - I either don't talk to, choose not to talk to, for the most recent and parasite-y ones, I ignore and block them on social networking sites depending on who they are. Simply put: I cut contact and left it at that. After witnessing some of his ex's actions when he and I started dating, I asked Detroit to do the same.
Those actions being: Crying over he and I dating, inviting him to see her STRIPPER dance, calling at all odd hours non stop... and more hilariousness!
Go ahead and call me attila the hun or whatever, but fuck that. Exes are excess BAGGAGE. You left them (or they left YOU) for a REASON.

There's no kids, family or anything between my exs and myself, or between Detroit and his. I respected my most significant ex (6 years) and divided the mutual friends. if they were his before we met, they are his and I will not fuck with that. if they are mine, they are mine. Ones we met together can decide on their own. Therefore, We eliminated mutual friends so we can respect each other's space. We agreed not to talk and left it at that.

So Baggie, what do you do? Start a conversation about you being uncomfortable with her being friends with her ex. Either she'll relive your mind and tell you nothings going on, and youll believe her, or she'll tell you nothings going on and you wont believe her.
Then you decide from there.

I agree with Zoomie.

I have a lot of female friends.  I have absolutely no intention of doing anything sexual with any of them.  I'm friends with women for the same reason I would be friends with a dude - common interests/activities/etc.  And the reasons I wouldn't be interested in anything other than a friendship with each of them are varied, but exist for each.  I'm not waiting in the wings to bone any of 'em. 

Of course, I also don't make friends with girls I've pursued and who have rejected me.  There probably are guys who are happy to stay in the "friend zone" with a girl they've pursued in hopes of that changing, but you've got to remember that your girlfriend already rejected them and picked you for a reason (if she is friends with such guys).

team jacob, people.

having said that I get jealous supereasy.

Honey, don't drag the gay twilight people into this thread, the big people are talking...

I just e-mailed a couple of pictures of my cock to my girlfriend. It's been a week with no sex and we're both dying. She's snuck and masturbated under the covers in the dorm room she's in, while her roomies were asleep, and I'm surprised my neighbors haven't complained about low bandwidth. Xvideos.com has been streaming for days on my pc.

Anyway, I appreciate the input about the ex situation, and the male friends annoyance. Some of these male friends have made unwarranted/unwanted passes at her in the past, and even others I believe she hooked up with once or twice, so you see why I feel a little annoyed.

http://www.mms.gov/omm/pacific/kids/Tidepool_Math/Common_Species/black%20abalone%20-%20diseased%20and%20healthy%20animals.jpg

Dude, she's LIVING WITH YOU and FOR A REASON ...
Back down and TRUST HER; if you don't, have her shit waiting, packed, in the living room upon her return ...

PS: She's cute; don't blame a guy for TRYING ...
It's a NATURAL GUY THING; you should know this by now, Mr. Pheromone ...

team jacob, people.
having said that I get jealous supereasy.

Not only that, she has no ex's to speak of nor relate to this thread ...
(Nothing personal, dear, I assure you; please don't take that as an attack in any way)

Dudes, these are all new feelings for me. Jealousy, etc. First girlfriend, so I'm just trying to figure out if this is normal or not, so cut this slack jaw some slack.

Yeah Dave, I have sort of gotten used to the fact that guys are going to hit on her, or stare at her titties because she has a nice rack. When we go jogging around Town Lake here, dudes are always staring. But honestly, I find myself checking out the tits on girls who are jogging the other direction, whether or not they have boyfriends running with them. So yeah, I understand, we have balls, and thus we have this constant urge.

I am going to continue putting my trust with her, and just man up and be confident that she is with me.

On the flip side, she has some jeaolusy issues too. In fact, she doesn't like me looking at porn haha because I'm beating off to other women. She's not real pissy about it, but does growl a little. Also some of the craigslist gals I met over the past few years are still friends of mine, and she doesn't really like that fact or me hanging out with them either.

Ah well, I think a little jealousy is healthy. She's my woman, and I'm her man, so of course you're going to be a little territorial.

so.... she sent you streaming video of her jerking off?