You also have to remember "friends-with-benefits".

In my opinion, there's a difference between being friends-with-benefits and fuck buddies. Currently, I am in a weird situation in that I feel we are moving beyond the friends-with-benefits deal (due to meeting her mother, and having to go out and have no sex), but neither of us have said anything about exclusivity, and the only times I talk to her on the phone is when she is calling me to tell me she is coming over, or vice versa. Longest convo has been 2-3 minutes. This is in nearly 4 months of fucking around. We do text and IM or whatever.

Fuck buddies don't really hang out, they may text/call each other when they're down town to see what's up and see if they want to meet up later. Pretty much synonymous with a "booty call". Limited contact with each other when not having sex.

Obviously if the dude is buying you shit, taking you to dinner, and peppering you with terms like "sweetie" or "honey" instead of "cum dumpster" or telling you to "swallow my throat yogurt", then he's probably looking for something a little more serious - a little more deeper. I have not taken my girl out to dinner per se, but we have gone out for gelato, and wine and cheese, and she ate some of my macaroni and cheese while we were watching a movie at this theater here called the Alamo Drafthouse that serves booze and food. To me, when I take her to dinner, that's a sign I want to be more romantically involved. It's probably a sign to her too, since we haven't ever gone to dinner. She'll get it.

So I guess what I'm saying is if he does something differently than he has been doing - for instance taking you out to dinner (you may already have been going out for dinner, then it would have to be something else that's "different"), he's probably lookin' to step it up.

Relationship advice from Bagman. This the world needs like it needs relationship advice from ME.

Actually, for the most part, I agree with him ...
It's all individual in situation, however, that's the basic idea ...

Now, "elephant in the room" time; Brook, what do YOU want/where do you want it to go?

fuckbuddy...  only making comments on your physical appearance, asking what you're doing, never asking how you are or trying to get to know YOU.

relationship.. asking how you are, making small talk, getting compliments (even some unrelated to physical appearance) and going OUT of way to make contact for no particular reason.

thats years of myspace experience talking. haha.

fucktard

See if you can do it, we can make fun of Baggy for NOT doing it.

Hey, I'm totally cool NOT bringing it up and keeping things as it has been for the past 4 months. You saw what happened when "J" exploded at me me and brought it up. BYE BYE.

I think you should make this girl your girlfriend Kyle, I don't see any other girls lining up to hook up with you. 

Tricky-  The guy that I dated over the summer is someone that I really liked, but he lives in another state so it's not going to work.  He did text me to say that he received a job offer here, so I don't know what that means.  He also texted me asking me about my new job tutoring and if I secretly liked children.  I replied that I did and then he said he did too.  I don't really know what this means.  Maybe he wants to move here, marry me, and have kids with me.  But who knows!  Maybe he's just feeling his mortality and wants to have kids with someone, anyone.... but he's a really good looking guy so I don't know why he'd want to single me out.  I don't get "motherly" vibes from myself personally.

The whole relationship deal really scares me. I can care for myself, my two cats, and my two plants. I think I am too emotionally devoid for anything else.

Why does it scare you, because it could end?

Someone has abandonment issues [/singsong voice]

The whole relationship deal really scares me. I can care for myself, my two cats, and my two plants. I think I am too emotionally devoid for anything else.

Give it a go. When it ends, post all the messy details here.

I'd rather Malvin not 'give it a go'.

I just re-read, "take care of my two plants, my two cats, and me.." and stifled a laugh.  Kyle has turned into a 35+ woman from match.com.

I took her out to dinner tonight. We went hiking, then saw the new Halloween 2 by Rob Zombie, which was fucking demented and fantastic, and then went to dinner.

*gulp*

Picked out names for the kids yet ?

at some point you have to stop believing her when she says she's on the pill

When guys ask me if I'm on the pill I say, "no, are you?"

Picked out names for the kids yet ?

Yeah, actually.

Fuck, and You.

I can care for myself, my two cats, and my two plants. I think I am too emotionally devoid for anything else.

Didn't you leave all but one of these in your A/C-less condo during Texas summer, recently?

Also, in other news, most girls/women these days are capable of caring for themselves when it comes to getting food, water, and the appropriate levels of sunlight to encourage growth.

What plants and cats? They're all dead.

butt sluts.

This is why communication is essential even if you're just bonking.

that makes no sense.

That's really negative. Has he been hedging that way?

shrubbery?

Sorry. Is he hinting that its time to move on?

huh?

Well all I can say is that if you actually want something to happen between the two of you try asking. I know about actions but sometimes life gets in the way of the right actions and the right words. We can be thick in the head but men appreciate honesty. And we are the non-communicative sex, for the most part.

Id swear you keep meeting the same guy over and over.

i love coffee

No sorry. I was refering to the ones from this year.