oh for reals?

I would let it lie for a month, and then one night as you're going out somewhere ask him if you can introduce him to others as your boyfriend

what do you really want from this guy? monogamy or your freedom to date other people? because i bet that if it's the latter, even if you don't plan on fucking other dudes, he will definitely fuck other girls if that's the type of relationship you decide on when you guys talk. so as long as that doesn't bother you... besides, if you're in the mood for a relationship-type situation, why stick it out with this guy that you're not sure if you even want to talk to about the status of your relationship? plus, you've expressed interest in possibly dating other guys, so clearly he's not doing it all for you. i'd feel like i'm wasting my time on a guy i'm not crazy for, and move on.

i think that in general, if you're feeling unsure of your status with someone, you should probably just have the talk and figure out where HIS head is at about the whole thing. maybe it'll help you figure out what exactly you do want from him.

mh, I haven't really read this whole thread through. I was assuming monogamy was the goal, if it's not then you should have a chat AFTER some hot sex and post about it here

i'm in a room.

although generally, i tend to avoid serious slash state-of-the-union conversations with guys until it's a situation in which i feel it's absolutely necessary. like...after 5 years i catch him cheating on me with a fat girl named "stef" who swings both ways. i mean, not me, but a hypothetical person that something that might've happened to. that would be a situation in which i'd force the conversation.

So ?

let's take my current relationship:

after about 6 months of monogamous dating, with lots of flirting with just eachother, lots of time spent with one another and eachothers' families, a new years holiday away, etc etc, he kept teasing me about how i hadn't called him my boyfriend yet, and by the way had i noticed he's been calling me his girlfriend for 4 months? basically i just didn't feel the need to go girly-gay on him and get ultra-, unneccessarily cheesy about the whole thing. i knew i was crazy about him, and i felt the same thing from him. we just get eachother. but after that, i started calling him my boyfriend despite the fact that he had been just that all along. i get pretty coy and shy about that stuff, which guys seem to find cute. actually, then, to further embarrass me, knowing i hate when couples get all cutesy and crap on facebook, and announce their relationship status, he requested my facebook hand in relationship-status-land. so now it lists me as "in a relationship with ____" which i guess is honest and all, but i think it's incredibly gay. he loves that i hate shit like that, but still wanted to one up me and tease me more by forcing my hand to accept the request. it would've been inappropriate to decline it.

i think it's incredibly gay.

And how! It is kind of cute, though, too........ if you're one of the participants in this homoerotic announcement.

Sweet Circumcised Christ, it's like you need a copy of Microsoft Excel to date a bitch, anymore.

OMG. permanently.

You had the talk online, and it didn't go well?

I'd totally laugh if this weren't completely sad and pathetic.

Jesus fucks kids, women are complicated.

I like the fact that me and la femme, haven't had the "discussion". We talk about sex, and fetishes, and sort of call each other jokingly "dear" and "darling", but no talk. I am still torn myself. I enjoy this girl's company (even if we don't have sex), and she enjoys mine. I am getting a little worried that she is latching on... the frequency of e-mails/texts/wanting me to get on IM and talk is increasing, especially recently and I don't know what that means. Sometimes, I just want to be left alone. I am a very solitary person.

Anyway having the talk does allow you both to lay it all out there, balls to the walls and cocks to the rocks. we;tkljhsklhsjkhkl;gdklghaldgha;gaklghak;jghejkgheruiotgheaorghadjklgha;lghal; I don't want to have a talk. I just want to know that la ragazza, isn't fucking another dude. That's all I really give a shit about.

Good luck!

Kyle, if you don't want her to fuck other guys then she will just assume she is your girlfriend.  Guys are hard to date too.  Guys now days don't want to commit to a girl, yet want to have us not fuck anyone else, cook for them, and bend over whenever they want.  This guy that likes me told me he didn't like how much of a player I am, and yet he doesn't want to have a "relationship" with anybody.  Fuck that.  If a guy wants me not to fuck anyone else then I am their girlfriend.  Also, I don't have a talk.  I just turn to the guy and say, "you're my boyfriend."  I have never had a guy say back, "oh well.. uh gosh.. maybe we should talk about this."  Fags.

Fags.

Sometimes, I just want to be left alone. I am a very solitary person.

yes I am alone
but then again I always was
as far back as I can tell
I think maybe it's because
because you were never really real to begin with

I just made you up to hurt myself

I just made you up to hurt myself, yeah
and I just made you up to hurt myself

and it worked
yes it did!

there is no you
there is only me
there is no you
there is only me

there is no fucking you
there is only me
there is no fucking you
there is only me

only...

Guys now days don't want to commit to a girl, yet want to have us not fuck anyone else, cook for them, and bend over whenever they want. 

Now days? That's the way it's been since the penis was invented.

YES pussy.

Oh! Cool then. You'll just continue to neurotically tiptoe around the subject and worry needlessly about it. Perfectly normal, perfectly healthy...

And this is the part where I tell how immature your entire attitude is but I had a shitty day and I think I'll just get pissed drunk instead. But I'll do it in your honor. Here's to you, Brook.

but I had a shitty day and I think I'll just get pissed drunk instead.

Way ahead of you, brother.

gigantic asshole

I can't help it if I really care about the people I care about, and really don't care about the people I don't. Have some Middleton.

I find invalids to be sexy.

Maybe I'm just misunderstood.

EDIT:

No, that was actually a very passive aggressive answer. And that's just not me. I'm not passive at all. Ask anyone who has met me.

I am a kind, friendly, personable, hospitable person. Ask anyone who has met me.

Of the three people here who think I don't respect them, think I don't like them, one is so self-absorbed that she's probably overlook a nuclear attack, one freely admits he escapes using mind altering substances and has rarely met one he doesn't like, and thinks the entire world is beneath him and there for his entertainment, and you're an immature cunt who hasn't the balls to stand up and tell the man you're humping what you want out of your relationship, or lack thereof. Some domme you turned out to be.

So I don't give a flying fuck about what you think of me or anything else. You don't even know me and all I know about you is the drivel you post.

Please die.

Kyle, stop posting animated gifs on things that you don't understand.

lolz

I could set my watch to you two and this 'hate/like' topic.

EDIT: wtf