Apart? No Im done. Moving on. Sucks that the cars in her name, or Id just file Ch 11 and be done with ALL of my debts.

So ladies, ovbiously Im a sure bet winner. Move south. Ill buy a doublewide and wallpaper it with Misfits posters. Shower you with gifts... all the Pall Malls you can smoke, all the malt liquor and box wine you can drink, and all the ramen noodles you can eat. I takes care o' MY womens. White trash punk rock love, Texas style.

  Sounds like you got a raw deal from a self-centered bitch.

  And this:

She told a mutual friend that she realized after her surgery, that she wouldn't have taken care of me like I had taken care of her.

  ...is the reason so many marriages fail. Too many people just flake out when times get hard or the passion hits a lull because they think life owes it to them to be perpetually happy and comfortable, and that loving someone is more about what you feel for them in the moment instead of what you do for them over the long run.

Yup. Step up to the plate, and if you can't, don't get in the game.

But look at this big shiny piece of dinosaur shit he bought me!!! It means we'll ride off into the sunset in a long car forever!

She told a mutual friend that she realized after her surgery, that she wouldn't have taken care of me like I had taken care of her.

But you said in the beginning that you "stuck around" during this time.  It seems like you were just waiting around for her to love you back, like you would grow on her or something.  I don't think it was ever meant to be.  Also, by you saying she was a bitch to everyone but sweet to you... sometimes... is just you giving excuses as to why you shouldn't feel like such a fool.

 

other times, though, girls really are sweet to some folks, and not to others.

other times, though, girls really are sweet to some folks, and not to others.

Yeah, seriously. I've been in that kinda place a couple of times, where the girl puts on her happy mask for everyone else, but was a total bitch to me like it was my duty to absorb all her bullshit and be happy about it. Realizing that this is going on has ended two relationships for me.

i am a prime example, but in the opposite direction. people in my life are compartmentalized so that work folks think i'm mostly a big, bossy bitch, whereas my friends, family, boyfriend, etcetera, know i'm mostly sweet as pie and easy going, but with a nasty streak if you push me the wrong way.

i do like the sound of punk rock love rockin' in a double wide. that's close to what my romantic ideal has been for years.

Apart? No Im done. Moving on. Sucks that the cars in her name, or Id just file Ch 11 and be done with ALL of my debts.

Is it in both of your names, or just her name?

If it's just in her name, I'd stop paying for it and let them come repossess it.

seconded. it's technically not your debt. stop being a good person for a second and fuck that succubus bitch like she fucked you.

I dont mind feeling like a fool. Part of what I loved about her was that she could be so hardcore. She'd was always getting me in fights at shows, (not usually fistfights, I'm 6'1 give or take, and I can talk a good game) then bitching that Id get in fights heh. Thought that she could take care of it herself...

As far as the cars concerned, Im cosigned on it.  Still, I dont think I could fuck her over, I dont operate that way. Its frustrating for my friends and family, but I dont. Plus, Im still really close to HER family. When I was living in Austin (after we broke up) it was with her sister, brother-in-law, and 2 yr old neice. This has been MY little neice for 2 years. MY family for 4. Unless they give their blessing to fuck her over (and they could) I cant do it.

hardcore is one thing, cold hearted bitch is another... I agree, you shouldn't fuck her over, the shit comes back on you eventually... and eventually she'll get hers one way or another, keep your head up...

Fuck man, girl needs a dose of reality one way or the other

i am a prime example, but in the opposite direction. people in my life are compartmentalized so that work folks think i'm mostly a big, bossy bitch, whereas my friends, family, boyfriend, etcetera, know i'm mostly sweet as pie and easy going, but with a nasty streak if you push me the wrong way.

What if you're not as compartmentalized as you think, it's just your family & friends put up with it in a nicer way?

As far as the cars concerned, Im cosigned on it.  Still, I dont think I could fuck her over, I dont operate that way. Its frustrating for my friends and family, but I dont. Plus, Im still really close to HER family. When I was living in Austin (after we broke up) it was with her sister, brother-in-law, and 2 yr old neice. This has been MY little neice for 2 years. MY family for 4. Unless they give their blessing to fuck her over (and they could) I cant do it.

You sound like you're really easy to manipulate.

I does, doesnt it. yay.

What if you're not as compartmentalized as you think, it's just your family & friends put up with it in a nicer way?

i've gone out with work pals and had them say to me "wow! you're so much fun!" as if they had no idea i could behave so differently outside of my work persona, nevermind that i am actually a pleasant, mostly bitch-free person when not at work. plus my boyfriend tells me what a good girl i am all the time, and he knows everything.

No matter how much I care for anyone or their family, no fucking way would I put myself out as much as you have just to protect her/them. Acting selflessly is one thing, but completely fucking yourself over for someone who's already completely fucked you over is another.

Its also a matter of personal responsibility. I bought that car, and if my credit had been slightly better it would be solely in my name. She was uncomfortable with having it in her name to begin with, and did it for me. Am I wrong to put myself through this? Probably, everyone tells me I am after all. Im going on gut feeling here. Its all I have right now. I may just say "take it, I dont want it, fuck off", and I still havent told her that the settlements not enough to pay for it. When I do, the shit just may hit the fan, after all, I just wrecked it, so itll be harder to sell now. Theres only two options here. Either I keep it, or put it back on her. If I give it back, and theres nothing she can do about it if I do, (warning the following sounds alot like poor excuses I tell myself, and may be) then I dont have a car. I owe the State 2 to 3 grand before I can register a car in my name, then I have to have the cash to buy a car also. Dunno... On the other hand, If I go to Austin as planned, I dont really need a car if I get a job close to South Austin.

I realize it sucks to be without a car, but it also seems like if you could raise the funds to bus it to Austin and find someplace to live and work there, your best bet would be to offload the damn thing on her.

You pretty much have to have a car in Austin.

man I like not having a car, they seem like an expensive hassle every time I talk to someone about 'em

Got that shit correct.

I didn't own a car in SF.  There is no real mass transit here, and I don't think I could get anywhere quick enough on my horse.

No lie - driving home form work last night, there were two guys riding horses down the main thoroughfare near my house.  They were taking up a whole lane.

The only people who don't own cars here are people who absolutely can't afford them.

Ive fine in Austin before without a car. Really decent public transportation. I guess I could buy, like a Vespa... But that would be gay, without all the benefits of having cocks everywhere for consumption. Being 'gayish' doesnt sound much fun at all.

Get a Chink scooter. They cost one-fourth what a Vespa does and as long as they are 49cc or less you don't need a plate or registration or insurance or even a helmet if you don't want to wear one.

Just make sure you change all the fluids to American or British synthetics before you start breaking it in. Some of the Chinese oils are cut with lard. So when they get hot they smell like burning pork chops...

I would love a scooter that smells like burning pork chops.