I am feeling emo and dorky.

You all know my sexual and dating history in it's entirety, and for those of you who don't, I have never been in a real relationship until very recently. Only one time in my 29 years have I told a girl that I loved her, and I'm not even sure I really did love her. I did cry like a little retarded circus clown when I told her because I did feel something inside that I guess could have been love, though it was such a one-sided love; I was blinded.

Anyway I read an article recently that on average a guy tells his girl he loves her 7 months into a relationship, and a girl tells her guy on average 8 months in. I have known my girlfriend for 7 months this weekend, and am not thinking about telling her anytime soon because I don't know what love is and I am not going to say something I don't believe. I know the phrase is thrown around all too frequently.

We have been spending a lot more time together (whole weekends) and I really enjoy her and having her company. We're staring into each other's eyes in bed for copious amounts of time and smiling, I'm kissing her head, and she's rubbing my back and squeezing me close to her. I asked her what she was thinking one night while she was staring into my eyes, and she asked me what I was thinking. Neither of us answered. I was wondering if she was thinking about saying the love word and if I was prepared to take it, and return it. I finally managed to say "I like you" a couple of weeks ago, and haha only because Brook and Sasha talked me into it in Japan, I am now calling her my girlfriend even though she has been just that for a few months. I have always had odd relationships with people, and being a latch-key kid I think developed my liking for being alone a lot of the time.

My plan is to wait until she says it first, and if she doesn't that is ok too. But the question is how do you know for certain you are in love with somebody?

In case you're worried because there is no talk about spank banks, lovesticks, cloned cocks, semen ropes, or (mushroom) stamps of approval, yes this is the REAL bagman. I am just having a bout of weird.

Wait, did you have the relationship conversation?

For me, when you're in love, you just know it. If you have to question it, then you probably aren't to that point yet.

I was definitely in love once, with you know who. Then in my next relationship I thought I was, but I realized that I wasn't after we broke up. This has nothing to do with you or your situation, though.

You're in love when you're mature enough and have enough respect for her that you don't need to come here and break down the details of your latest adventure. Reading your posts is like listening to a 16 year old trying to impress his friends. All you're interested in is how she makes you feel, what she does for you. Any comment about what you do for her is generally to do with getting her off, ie you're trying to impress your readers again. That's not mutual respect, it's the selfishness of youth.

Breaking down details of my adventures is all that I have ever known. When I am on the board, I'm giving you all the scoop, sprinkles and all. Been doing it for so long it's hard to know how to stop.

But you are completely right Nick, and if I can't stop while I'm visiting the the board it's best I just stay away. I have tried hard to not dish out details, and for a long time never posted a photo of her, but I am struggling with regaining self-control again.

So Long, Lonesome

Sayanora (at least for as long as I have a girlfriend).

what? you cant stop over sharing so you "leave" the board?


laaaame.

Yeah, leaving's not the right option either ...

You are in love when you are in love; you'll know it ...

Don't worry about it, basically ...

I'm in love with me, and I never needed to leave the board...

except for those times when self gratification is necessary...

He has never told his mother that he loves her.


oh and dont read articles about love.

You're going to get all emo and protective because Nick snapped you back? I doubt you would have done that if he hadn't. Falling in line with the original question, I don't think you have the emotional maturity to recognize whether or not you're in love. You're stunted. Nothing wrong with that, so am I, so are several people here, it happens. But don't cut and run because you're worried about sullying this woman on the wwwebz. Learn some fucking self control, man.

Asking how you know you're in love is like asking how you know if you're gay. There' no test for it.

I've always been against the mystical treatment of love, though. Love is just a word. I fall in love easily and I say "I love you" easily because it's true. Sure I've had relationships where the kind of love is mature, respectful, reverent appreciation that goes beyond the "I love how you are in bed" kind of love, but the fact that higher forms of love exist won't stop me from using the word if I feel like it's true. For instance when a girl tells me she loves me, unless I really have reservations, I'll return the expression without doing the whole cringing around the issue thing. Who knows maybe it'll cause her to escalate things. I can either deal with it or get out of the relationship. I think it's a hollywood trope to have hangups over the L-word. Just say what you feel and ignore the mysticism society has erected. HoJo's right. Articles about love are crap.

You know you're in love when you say "I'm sorry" after accidentally blowing your load in her eye.

Yup

For the record, I knew I was in love with my wife when I cared more about her happiness and her fulfillment in life than I did my own

Asking how you know you're in love is like asking how you know if you're gay. There' no test for it.

I've always been against the mystical treatment of love, though. Love is just a word. I fall in love easily and I say "I love you" easily because it's true. Sure I've had relationships where the kind of love is mature, respectful, reverent appreciation that goes beyond the "I love how you are in bed" kind of love, but the fact that higher forms of love exist won't stop me from using the word if I feel like it's true. For instance when a girl tells me she loves me, unless I really have reservations, I'll return the expression without doing the whole cringing around the issue thing. Who knows maybe it'll cause her to escalate things. I can either deal with it or get out of the relationship. I think it's a hollywood trope to have hangups over the L-word. Just say what you feel and ignore the mysticism society has erected. HoJo's right. Articles about love are crap.

For the record, I knew I was in love with my wife when I cared more about her happiness and her fulfillment in life than I did my own

I'm pretty sure that's almost the same thing I said.

Oddly enough, both statements are equally true.

Anchorman-Afternoon Delight

Fergie - Clumsy

I know when I am in love if I wake up and don't want to kick the guy out of bed.  I also fall in love easily, I think, and that is why I have a problem having only one boyfriend at a time.

Paradoxical ...

Closet hippy.

Maybe I am confusing love with lust... nevermind.

Either way ...

In the morning:

Cuddle, fuck, cuddle, breakfast, cuddle = love.

Fuck, cuddle, fuck, breakfast = lust

Fuck, fuck, fuck, kick out = Thrash

You know you're in love when you have an overwhelming desire to break up with them because you're getting too attached.

I would think the Thrash equation was lust.  The second equation is love to me.

Your mileage may vary.

Zing.

I know when i am in love when I still find them attractive in 2 or 3 weeks, and not annoying, and I haven't insulted them too much.

Ok, out of the 16-18 women that've been over recently, I've only fucked 7 or 8 ...

Wait, no; you're right ...