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General Category => Sex/Gossip => Topic started by: bagman on November 26, 2009, 11:30:49 AM
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I am feeling emo and dorky.
You all know my sexual and dating history in it's entirety, and for those of you who don't, I have never been in a real relationship until very recently. Only one time in my 29 years have I told a girl that I loved her, and I'm not even sure I really did love her. I did cry like a little retarded circus clown when I told her because I did feel something inside that I guess could have been love, though it was such a one-sided love; I was blinded.
Anyway I read an article recently that on average a guy tells his girl he loves her 7 months into a relationship, and a girl tells her guy on average 8 months in. I have known my girlfriend for 7 months this weekend, and am not thinking about telling her anytime soon because I don't know what love is and I am not going to say something I don't believe. I know the phrase is thrown around all too frequently.
We have been spending a lot more time together (whole weekends) and I really enjoy her and having her company. We're staring into each other's eyes in bed for copious amounts of time and smiling, I'm kissing her head, and she's rubbing my back and squeezing me close to her. I asked her what she was thinking one night while she was staring into my eyes, and she asked me what I was thinking. Neither of us answered. I was wondering if she was thinking about saying the love word and if I was prepared to take it, and return it. I finally managed to say "I like you" a couple of weeks ago, and haha only because Brook and Sasha talked me into it in Japan, I am now calling her my girlfriend even though she has been just that for a few months. I have always had odd relationships with people, and being a latch-key kid I think developed my liking for being alone a lot of the time.
My plan is to wait until she says it first, and if she doesn't that is ok too. But the question is how do you know for certain you are in love with somebody?
In case you're worried because there is no talk about spank banks, lovesticks, cloned cocks, semen ropes, or (mushroom) stamps of approval, yes this is the REAL bagman. I am just having a bout of weird.
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Wait, did you have the relationship conversation?
For me, when you're in love, you just know it. If you have to question it, then you probably aren't to that point yet.
I was definitely in love once, with you know who. Then in my next relationship I thought I was, but I realized that I wasn't after we broke up. This has nothing to do with you or your situation, though.
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You're in love when you're mature enough and have enough respect for her that you don't need to come here and break down the details of your latest adventure. Reading your posts is like listening to a 16 year old trying to impress his friends. All you're interested in is how she makes you feel, what she does for you. Any comment about what you do for her is generally to do with getting her off, ie you're trying to impress your readers again. That's not mutual respect, it's the selfishness of youth.
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Breaking down details of my adventures is all that I have ever known. When I am on the board, I'm giving you all the scoop, sprinkles and all. Been doing it for so long it's hard to know how to stop.
But you are completely right Nick, and if I can't stop while I'm visiting the the board it's best I just stay away. I have tried hard to not dish out details, and for a long time never posted a photo of her, but I am struggling with regaining self-control again.
So Long, Lonesome (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d3ix-WmtbaA#normal)
Sayanora (at least for as long as I have a girlfriend).
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what? you cant stop over sharing so you "leave" the board?
laaaame.
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Yeah, leaving's not the right option either ...
You are in love when you are in love; you'll know it ...
Don't worry about it, basically ...
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I'm in love with me, and I never needed to leave the board...
except for those times when self gratification is necessary...
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He has never told his mother that he loves her.
oh and dont read articles about love.
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You're going to get all emo and protective because Nick snapped you back? I doubt you would have done that if he hadn't. Falling in line with the original question, I don't think you have the emotional maturity to recognize whether or not you're in love. You're stunted. Nothing wrong with that, so am I, so are several people here, it happens. But don't cut and run because you're worried about sullying this woman on the wwwebz. Learn some fucking self control, man.
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Asking how you know you're in love is like asking how you know if you're gay. There' no test for it.
I've always been against the mystical treatment of love, though. Love is just a word. I fall in love easily and I say "I love you" easily because it's true. Sure I've had relationships where the kind of love is mature, respectful, reverent appreciation that goes beyond the "I love how you are in bed" kind of love, but the fact that higher forms of love exist won't stop me from using the word if I feel like it's true. For instance when a girl tells me she loves me, unless I really have reservations, I'll return the expression without doing the whole cringing around the issue thing. Who knows maybe it'll cause her to escalate things. I can either deal with it or get out of the relationship. I think it's a hollywood trope to have hangups over the L-word. Just say what you feel and ignore the mysticism society has erected. HoJo's right. Articles about love are crap.
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You know you're in love when you say "I'm sorry" after accidentally blowing your load in her eye.
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Yup
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For the record, I knew I was in love with my wife when I cared more about her happiness and her fulfillment in life than I did my own
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Asking how you know you're in love is like asking how you know if you're gay. There' no test for it.
I've always been against the mystical treatment of love, though. Love is just a word. I fall in love easily and I say "I love you" easily because it's true. Sure I've had relationships where the kind of love is mature, respectful, reverent appreciation that goes beyond the "I love how you are in bed" kind of love, but the fact that higher forms of love exist won't stop me from using the word if I feel like it's true. For instance when a girl tells me she loves me, unless I really have reservations, I'll return the expression without doing the whole cringing around the issue thing. Who knows maybe it'll cause her to escalate things. I can either deal with it or get out of the relationship. I think it's a hollywood trope to have hangups over the L-word. Just say what you feel and ignore the mysticism society has erected. HoJo's right. Articles about love are crap.
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For the record, I knew I was in love with my wife when I cared more about her happiness and her fulfillment in life than I did my own
I'm pretty sure that's almost the same thing I said.
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Oddly enough, both statements are equally true.
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Anchorman-Afternoon Delight (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eplbDbp6XJQ#normal)
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Fergie - Clumsy (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kN9vm95SocU#noexternalembed-normal)
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I know when I am in love if I wake up and don't want to kick the guy out of bed. I also fall in love easily, I think, and that is why I have a problem having only one boyfriend at a time.
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Paradoxical ...
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Closet hippy.
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Maybe I am confusing love with lust... nevermind.
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Either way ...
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In the morning:
Cuddle, fuck, cuddle, breakfast, cuddle = love.
Fuck, cuddle, fuck, breakfast = lust
Fuck, fuck, fuck, kick out = Thrash
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You know you're in love when you have an overwhelming desire to break up with them because you're getting too attached.
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I would think the Thrash equation was lust. The second equation is love to me.
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Your mileage may vary.
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Zing.
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I know when i am in love when I still find them attractive in 2 or 3 weeks, and not annoying, and I haven't insulted them too much.
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Ok, out of the 16-18 women that've been over recently, I've only fucked 7 or 8 ...
Wait, no; you're right ...
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Someone's gonna get wise if you keep burying them in your basement, man.
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Well, I was only counting the live ones anyway ...
The others were a given ...
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I wanna know what love is!
I want you to show me!
I wanna feel what love is!
I know you can show me!
Aaaah woah! oh ooh!
Ugh. Yea. I'm single for the first time in 10 years. It's weird.
Love is lame. don't do it baggy! don't do it. Only poser's fall in love. :D
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Love is lame. don't do it baggy! don't do it. Only poser's fall in love. :D
Haha I'm gonna get some punani soon ya fucks! (http://web.archive.org/web/20020620115604/www.loaded-gun.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic&f=3&t=000305&p=3)
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hahahahahaha ....
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Only poser's fall in love.
Ugh. Yea. I'm single for the first time in 10 years. It's weird.
Man, I bet. I'm single for the first time in 4 years, and that's weird enough. I'm kinda enjoying it though.
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You enjoy it until the loneliness creeps in, and then you are doing stupid shit like hanging out with your ex again EVEN THOUGH you know they are fucking insane. Then they do shit that gets increasingly more and more psycho, but you give them the benefit of the doubt since they are sad and pathetic and nerdy. And finally! It ends up with someone going to jail because they do something like post naked pictures of you up on the internet. Yea Kyle. Don't fucking do it. It's not worth it. Also, don't hook back up with an ex.
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I'm single for the first time in 10 years
Hmmmm... call me when you're done grieving. I'll take you to Venezuela and rub your feet...
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You enjoy it until the loneliness creeps in, and then you are doing stupid shit like hanging out with your ex again EVEN THOUGH you know they are fucking insane. Then they do shit that gets increasingly more and more psycho, but you give them the benefit of the doubt since they are sad and pathetic and nerdy. And finally! It ends up with someone going to jail because they do something like post naked pictures of you up on the internet. Yea Kyle. Don't fucking do it. It's not worth it. Also, don't hook back up with an ex.
Damn, I did none of that shit when I split with the ex.
WTF is wrong with me?
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She was just exaggerating. That sort of thing doesn't happen in real life.
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I'm single for the first time in 10 years
Hmmmm... call me when you're done grieving. I'll take you to Venezuela and rub your feet...
Perhaps we can work something out.
Buy me shoes and knee socks!
I'll model them for ya pops. ;)
(I just found a kick ass sock store in Portland. Oh my!)
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.. to answer your question baggy. When they tell you they've herpes and your okay with it. That's how you know!
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You mean when they tell you they just picked up herpes and your down with it?
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They when they tell you they've had herpes all along and you're cool with it?
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Is this all prior to breaking down and having sex for the first time?
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when they tell you they've had herpes all along and you're cool with it?
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My exboyfriend texted that I had herpes to guys I have been having sex with for months and they were cool with it. I'm pretty sure I'm not in love with any of these people and I'm also pretty sure they don't love me.
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Only poser's fall in love.
Ugh. Yea. I'm single for the first time in 10 years. It's weird.
Man, I bet. I'm single for the first time in 4 years, and that's weird enough. I'm kinda enjoying it though.
I did 7 years in the hole ...
Now look at me; fucking bunches of bitches ...
You enjoy it until the loneliness creeps in, and then you are doing stupid shit like hanging out with your ex again EVEN THOUGH you know they are fucking insane. Then they do shit that gets increasingly more and more psycho, but you give them the benefit of the doubt since they are sad and pathetic and nerdy. And finally! It ends up with someone going to jail because they do something like post naked pictures of you up on the internet. Yea Kyle. Don't fucking do it. It's not worth it. Also, don't hook back up with an ex.
Yeah, I feel bad for you about that; ex's are ex's for a reason ...
So, he got arrested for that?
Good!
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Damn, I guess I didn't realize my last post was in November!
Anyway, quick update:
We professed our love to one another Tuesday night! Yes, this past Tuesday night. It feels so good.
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Wow ...
Good deal, Kyle ...
I'm actually very happy for you ...
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Congrats Kyle.
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The irony of this was the started this thread asking about one girl and ended up falling in love with (and finally voicing it) to another ...
As I said, I'm happy for you, man ...
... it's like our little boy's finally all grown up!
/me wipes a tear from his eye *
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How do you know when you're in love? Well in my opinion, you just know.
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Not always ...
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How do you know when you're in love? Well in my opinion, you just know.
that's how I know when I'm stoned
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Dylan knows he's in love when the hand cuffs get slapped on him by the police and the girls parents shake their heads in shame at him while he is getting escorted to the back of a patrol car.
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How do you know when you're in love? Well in my opinion, you just know.
that's how I know when I'm stoned
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Asking how you know you're in love is like asking how you know if you're gay. There' no test for it.
I've always been against the mystical treatment of love, though. Love is just a word. I fall in love easily and I say "I love you" easily because it's true. Sure I've had relationships where the kind of love is mature, respectful, reverent appreciation that goes beyond the "I love how you are in bed" kind of love, but the fact that higher forms of love exist won't stop me from using the word if I feel like it's true. For instance when a girl tells me she loves me, unless I really have reservations, I'll return the expression without doing the whole cringing around the issue thing. Who knows maybe it'll cause her to escalate things. I can either deal with it or get out of the relationship. I think it's a hollywood trope to have hangups over the L-word. Just say what you feel and ignore the mysticism society has erected. HoJo's right. Articles about love are crap.
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Articles about love are crap? So Seventeen Magazine has been misguiding me all of these years?
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Crazy. I have only told two girls in my entire life that I loved them.
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This last one and what other one?
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Ive told many a girl i love them. And one guy.
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OIC ...
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Crazy. I have only told two girls in my entire life that I loved them, one of them was Auntie.
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i've said "i love you" to 4 men, but in retrospect i only meant it with two of them. maybe you don't know if it was really love until after the relationship has crashed and burned, and you have this certain feeling about the now dead relationship. like, part of you mourns the love you two once shared.
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Maybe you shouldn't say it unless you're sure. Even if there's an iPhone or a set of new tires in it for you.
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No, I agree with her ...
The older I get, the more I am sure that while I loved them all, I was only "in love" with 2 or 3 ...
... one, I'll probably never have; I haven't yet
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If it doesn't work out, you can always try Australia (http://www.nzherald.co.nz/entertainment/news/article.cfm?c_id=1501119&objectid=10640943)
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I know I'm in love with DG Fuerte. He has a job, a bank account, a car, is good in bed, and is nice. What else does a girl need? Seriously! When you get older you just kind of don't give a fuck anymore. I thought I wouldn't meet anyone that I could love seriously for a long time. I got lucky I think. My friend Marissa turned 30 today and hasn't been in a relationship since she was 23.
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Does she do anal?
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No. She is one of those girls who people think are drunk sluts, but when they get them home they realize they are really prudes who only want to make out and borrow money for a cab ride home.
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I know I'm in love with DG Fuerte. He has a job, a bank account, a car, is good in bed, and is nice. What else does a girl need? Seriously! When you get older you just kind of don't give a fuck anymore. I thought I wouldn't meet anyone that I could love seriously for a long time. I got lucky I think. My friend Marissa turned 30 today and hasn't been in a relationship since she was 23.
if you're able to gear your thoughts to making the relationship good for him then I give you more than 90 days
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No. She is one of those girls who people think are drunk sluts, but when they get them home they realize they are really prudes who only want to make out and borrow money for a cab ride home.
Dumb cunts ...
... it's WHY she's all alone at 30
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SUCK YOUR CAB FARE OUT OF MY NUTS
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I took a cab today. I paid cash.
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I have been with DG Fuerte since around New Years.... that's not too shabby for me. Making it through a season with someone new is an improvement in the relationship longevity department for me.
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DG Fuerte, A comic book character?
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... and his sidekick, ChodaBoy!
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No. She is one of those girls who people think are drunk sluts, but when they get them home they realize they are really prudes who only want to make out and borrow money for a cab ride home.
xD. Thats brilliant...
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... especially when you really don't like guys
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Overrated yknow?
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I call him DG Fuerte because that is his cool superhero name I made up.
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... and his sidekick, ChodaBoy!
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I could get into a superhero sidekick manwich.
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... especially when said sidekick wears a large dildo on his forehead