Ok so this is the reason why I started this thread.
I met a guy at a party. We talked blah blah. I found him on a website that we are both members of and said hi. He ends up asking me out. We go out, it was fun, I thought he was cool and nice. He asked me if I wanted to hang out again, I said sure. Over the next week we exchange a bunch of messages (him sending more than me, following up more than I did), and we make plans for Friday. I tell him I want him to come over to my apartment and watch zombie movies with me, because on the first date he said he'd be into doing that sometime. I wasn't trying to get him to my house so I could get into his pants necessarily. I was just excited about watching zombie movies with someone. So he says "I don't think we are there yet." He says he can't meet me at 6:30 (original time we made plans), he has to meet me at 8. So I ask him to dinner instead of hanging at my apartment and I suggest a place. He says it's too expensive (an entree is like $15-20). I suggest another place thats cheaper. He responds and says he wants Japanese food. I find a Japanese restaurant to go to. He finally agrees (even though you can't really get a meal at a Japanese restaurant for less than $15??). At 6:30 he calls and says he can't make it because he's at his family's house and he can't get here in time. He says do you want to go out tomorrow? I say ok, maybe in the afternoon because I have plans at night. I tell him to call me at 2pm on Saturday. 2 pm comes around, no contact. 6:30pm, he texts me and says he "kind of just woke up". Do I want to still go out? I say I am busy this weekend but maybe later in the week, but he has to plan everything next time. He says "fair enough". He also texts something about how he hopes I don't hate him, that he's not a jerk all the time but he is a flake.
Come to find out, I see on a mutual (female) acquaintances website that the guy went out with her and a couple other girls to a club on Friday and totally ditched me. How awesome!
Why don't you just say, "I think we are better as friends and not girlfriend and boyfriend." Then say, "I love hanging out with you, but I don't think we should take the sexual relationship any further." THEN you make plans to hang out a week later and you flake out. Then you re-make plans and flake out again. The open-ended break-up is always the best. Because you don't look like a jerk, you just look like a flakey friend. DIg?!
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