No one should ever get married ... period!

I got married when I was 22. We had the kid when we were 30. We hit the 11 year mark this summer.

The divorce rate is so high now days I don't see the point in having a big wedding.  I feel like just going to city hall would be the best way, if you wanted to get married, and then both parties signing prenups so that the split is easier.  I am glad I didn't get married at 22 or 26.  If I did I would be married to either Casey or Aasim.

I want two weddings, a white one and an indian one. The indian one will be showy definitely. I couldnt get divorced though, I dont know what I would do if I got married and then he said he wanted a divorce.

You could star in a gangbang porn to show him up.

Sounds like a plan that wont embarass me at all! Alright!

Only if you call the art of modern adult cinema embarrassing...

I call divorce embarrassing. *sigh*

I just dont want to work so hard to get my parents to accept a guy that I choose and then have him turn out to be a tosser and divorce me.

Marry a bulldyke; she'll keep you forever!

I call divorce embarrassing. *sigh*

I just dont want to work so hard to get my parents to accept a guy that I choose and then have him turn out to be a tosser and divorce me.

Life is funny that way.  Divorce happens a lot. Now what you are getting into is something I can't even comprehend. That being parental acceptance. My mother was against me dating outside my race because she thought the potential children would not be accepted by society. Turns out that's not the case. My kid is just autistic, but he's an adorable brown baby nonetheless.

You left him out in the sun to long eh.

Thrash, i may well just do that.

Life is funny that way.  Divorce happens a lot. Now what you are getting into is something I can't even comprehend. That being parental acceptance. My mother was against me dating outside my race because she thought the potential children would not be accepted by society. Turns out that's not the case. My kid is just autistic, but he's an adorable brown baby nonetheless.

Thats cute.


It worries me because no one ever thinks they will get divorced so theres no point thinking it will not happen to me. I just gotta hope he's a good enough guy not to do that to me, even if it means sticking around for someone he doesnt love. 

You left him out in the sun to long eh.

I swear I didn't know black kids could get farmer tans. Those would be his white genes at work.

If you stick around with someone you don't love, you're WASTING BOTH (or all of) YOUR LIVES!!!

 I just gotta hope he's a good enough guy not to do that to me, even if it means sticking around for someone he doesnt love.

Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you then? To save face? Towards who?

Um my family? Every asian person i know? To avoid every rel in india looking at me like im a whore..?

Edit: nb: i wouldnt be able to get remarried anywa.

I guess this shows the cultural divide between East and West then. I could give two shits about what my family thinks of my actions, provided I'm not injuring myself, etc. Family is family. They stick around no matter what, unless of course someone is just willfully destructive.

<3 And there i was thinking you were gonna say something reallg rather different.

I think my parents will be there or at least try to be there no matter what but beyond that i dont know. They make lots of empty threats, they threatened to disown me, and to chuck me out the house on seperate occasions. But overall, they couldnt yet.   

Divorce happens these days because people have a mystical conception of what it means. If you're getting married you have to realize that you're going to stop being physically attracted to the other person and you are going to get into fights over issues all the time. People today think of marriage as the public acknowledgment by two parties that they are in love. When these fools stop seeing each other as physically attractive or if they are so inflexible that arguments tear them apart then they feel like they've fallen out of love then they can't see any reason to stay married and they get a divorce. Divorce without prenuptial agreements often delivers an economic body-blow, and if children are involved then we can see psychological damage as well.

Just don't get married if you consider divorce as back-door out of it. It's not a clean escape-way.
If you decide to get married then be adult about it. Live together for several years until you're sure about the other person. Don't maintain your chastity until marriage or if you do then don't let sexual issues be the reason for your divorce.
When you fight or cease to find the other attractive then remember that the reason you married the other person is because of who they are as a person and that person is still in there.
If you can't be adult about it then don't get married. It's as simple as that.

It's kinda hard to get remarried after a rel has thrown acid in your face.

My parents and grandfather do chemistry.

Wouldn't they just let you be publicly raped before they threw acid in your face?

Either or ...

Wouldn't they just let you be publicly raped before they threw acid in your face?

I dont think theres any handbook guide on the matter.

I still find it hard to believe that ANYONE, especially the ones that "love you", would rather you live in misery ...

Because those who care for you should want the best for you.

They dont want me to be in misery.

Then why would they care, or shun you if you get married and become miserable, like 75% of the married/pre-married world, and end it?

Uhh i never said anything about being shunned. And the acid/rape stuff was not serious.

Sure, get my hope all up and shit ....

... and you eluded to them dishonoring or some shit