I'm from Connecticut; here's the breakdown ...
Ct+NY people = Cool
NY+NJ people = mostly cool
Ct+NJ people = 1/2+1/2
People from Ct have a love-hate with NJ people ...
We either take you on as family and love you like brothers and sisters ...
(which is about 1/5 of them; on a generous estimate)
.... or we choke-slam you on contact
... there's NO in-between with Ct->NJ people; you're either one or the other, PERIOD!

So, yeah; I HATE most NJ asswipes, and I make NO bones about it ...
... and I NEVER have!

Ugh, my hatred of NY/NJ/PA people was reignited all over again while driving through Georgia.  I thought Michiganders couldn't drive...

A little over e month ago, my sister accused one of my oldest friends, Luke, of being a pedophile.  Because I mentioned to him in passing that my niece was begging me to buy her an N64 so she could play Zelda: Majora's Mask, and he said he'd give me one of the three he had sitting in a closet that his kids haven't touched in years, just to get it out of the way.  According to my sister, this was him "conditioning" my niece to trust him so he could "touch her coochie".

I got so fucking mad that I cussed her out right then and there, forgetting that my nieces were there listening, and told her to get the fuck out of my house.  In my enraged mind, she'd basically just called me a goddamn pedophile, because if I'd left her alone with him, that would make me an accomplice to his supposed pedophilia, as I see it.  Luke's not a pedophile, by the way.  He was a bit of a dumbass and a hellraiser in his 20's, but getting married and having three kids calmed him down a lot.  He takes care of these three kids himself now that his wife decided she'd have more fun if she left them all and went to go fuck some other guy that makes more money than him.  And even then, as much as I know and trust the guy, I still wouldn't leave him alone with my niece.  She's the center of the world for me and about the only person on Earth I've actually allowed myself to give a shit about, so I'd never leave her with anyone, ever.  Not even my roommate, my cousin Mark who's been my best friend since we were six, who's more like a brother to me than a cousin.

Regardless, we got into another big fight on the phone the next day, and I told her not to contact me again, she doesn't have a brother anymore.  Dunno if that makes me the asshole, and I don't really care, but in my condition I can't deal with any more stress from her constant crazy attention-seeking bullshit.

She swore that I'd never see my nieces again.  She managed to hold to that for a month.  My parents brought them over to visit a couple of times when they were staying the weekend at their house, and I got to see them again a couple days ago, since they're down for spring break.  My parents just bought my sister a new truck, and I imagine they used it as leverage to get her to shut the hell up about a bunch of the crazy bullshit she spouts, the least of which is the niece embargo I'm under.

But this bitch is nine shades of crazy, and last time I talked to her she screamed on about how my cussing her out and saying shit about her is abuse to her kids, and she had to protect them from my "abuse", and that they're "maladaptive", whatever the fuck that means, because of the abuse of what I say to her.  If they're in any way messed up, I imagine it's not because of anything I said or did, It's probably more to do with the fact that she leaves them by themselves to go get drunk and stoned down the street, or gets drunk and mad at her husband and goes to his workplace asking aoll of his coworkers if they want to pay to fuck her.  Or the fact that Megan told me recently that she likes coming down here to visit because mommy and stepdaddy are always screaming at each other.  Or maybe because of my sister jumping out of the moving car in the middle of a screaming argument with her husband and lying down in the highway in front of oncoming Mack trucks.  Right in front of her kids.  Or faking taking a bottle of sleeping pills so many times that the local hospital won't even admit her anymore.  Or the one time recently that she DID do it and lay on the floor for two days before her jackass husband noticed how long she'd been laying there and that her arms were swollen.

What are my current thoughts?  I live in constant fear of turning on CNN one day and seeing one of those headlines saying. "Mother kills herself and her two children for unexplained reasons." and seeing my nieces pictures.

When my nieces came to see me on Sunday, I heard her in the background yammering on about how if I say anything bad about her to the kids it's abuse and she'll call the police and that I better make goddamn sure that Luke isn't there trying to lure her away with videogames.

I never bring up my sister when my nieces are visiting.  I don't want to depress them.

Good grief. sounds like she has serious mental illness and addiction issues. And no one At All Except for Her is responsible for fixing her shit. I am sorry about all that. What you describe is what my family had to endure for fifteen years before I finally pulled my head out of my ass. I hope you and your family all find a way to step back and learn to be unaffected by her actions. And for her kids' sake, especially.

CT: I am grateful to have sanity today, away from the mess of addiction, I am grateful to have peace today, away from the mess of constant chaos that is the Borderline Way, and I am grateful to have the ability to become mindful whenever I need or want to.

Johnny, that sucks balls, but it appears that most people here have at least one mentally deficent relative, some whole hordes of them. That's the reason I barely have anything to do with my own immediate family (my extended family is cool).

That said, I want this to become some countries national sport:

Wtf is that mosh? There is nothing there but a teeny box for me....

CT: BlahBlahBlahBlahBlah

There is something screwy with the board displaying images.

It's guys on a ball field wearing plastic bubbles running around bouncing off one another.

Substitute steroids for plastic balls and you have the NFL.

There is something screwy with the board displaying images.

It's guys on a ball field wearing plastic bubbles running around bouncing off one another.

I read this as: It's a guy's balls on fire blowing bubbles running all over a field.

Which would be funny too,

Johnny, how old are her kids?

Nine and four.  Why?

I liked how they goofed on that worthless waste of tape called "Jersey Shore" ...
FUCK, I FUCKING HATE Jersey people!

Sorry, had to correct that ...
It's important for me to fully express my dislike for an ENTIRE STATE's WORTH of assclowns ...

Thank you all!

Love,
-=Thrash=-

You do realize that all the people from that show are actually from Staten Island, right? not to defend NJ, but, still.

edit: ok, actually not all of them are from SI, but most are from NY. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jersey_Shore_%28TV_series%29#Cast

All this is ridiculously silly posturing, and either Dave's making this stuff up for purposes of trolling or he actually believes that a bunch of arbitrary lines drawn on a map influence people's personalities, in which case he's got bigger problems than MTV shows.

I think Thrash just wants some of this.



I wouldn't even know this show existed if not for Bevis and Butthead.

Nine and four.  Why?

I worry about the influence this'll have on them in that unstable environment ...
... I'd think that having a loving person in their lives (you) would logically be a PLUS in your sister's eyes
... I'm thinking that if she's willing to risk that (and other factors w/her children), she's more than bat-shit crazy

All this is ridiculously silly posturing, and either Dave's making this stuff up for purposes of trolling or he actually believes that a bunch of arbitrary lines drawn on a map influence people's personalities, in which case he's got bigger problems than MTV shows.

It REALLY DOES (at least for the tri-state area) ...
It's ABSOLUTE fact; live there for 5 minutes and you'll see it for yourself ...

F U C K T H I S

 

Nine and four.  Why?

Have you made a report to CPS? If you haven't, please do. You don't even have to give your name, but if you do they can send you a notice that they have taken a case report. Even if she lies and they close it, or she gets a burned-out investigator who doesn't give a crap anymore because of all the hell they see and closes it, it is still on record for when you call again to report it.

I have called in before on an old neighbor of mine. My mother once worked in the Treatment side of CPS (not the Investigating side, she only worked with founded cases) and I asked for assistance in what I should report. I told the worker I reported it to "I refuse to be the person on the news saying 'well, I heard things, but decided someone was gonna take care of it' on the news if this little girl gets killed or something". That got her attention. (About a year later I found out she was living down the block from our new place and a few months later, her next door neighbor told my daughter "she went to her Grandmas cause her mom's boyfriend was messing with her and her mom did nothing about it")

I would urge you to call them and say that you are their uncle and you are worried for their lives. Keep calling every other week or so until you know that CPSis involved.

Yeah, I've considered it, but it's a little different with family.  Especially with her.  If she ever found out I did it, I really wouldn't ever see my nieces again.  Or worse, she'd make up some bullshit on me like she did our cousin a couple years ago, or christ, like that stupid shit with Facebook that she tried to get me to do for her last year. 

She and her husband's ex-wife hate each other (naturally) and are constantly getting into fights and trying to sabotage each other somehow, and once recently a cop told my sister that if the ex threatened her, she could file harassment charges and get a restraining order.  My sister then called me up - at 1AM - and asked me to make a fake Facebook account under the ex's name and threaten her account with it.  Of course I told her not no but FUCK no, and she started screaming at me that I'm an asshole and not supporting her.  I tried to explain that there are a dozen things wrong, legally, with that shit, not to mention that it would be the easiest thing in the world for the ex to prove that it wasn't hers, but she wouldn't hear it.

Best I can do is be their uncle now, and hope that they're smart enough to know not to grow up like their mother.

All the times she's done crazy shit, CPS has to have been called at some point.  Me, they wouldn't even bother opening a file I don't think because I didn't see any of it personally, it's all thirdhand from my parents, and they're too scared of her taking the kids away from them to do jack shit about it.

You can do it anonymously ...
... the logistics of it may be a little dicey though
... I mean, how do you tell the info you know without it pointing to you?

... if she's seen as "unfit" then your parents would probably end up with them, no?

Unless she comes up with some molestation bullshit like she's threatened to a dozen times.  She did with our mother that very night after they got into a big fight too.

I'd think that there's a record of "wolf calling" in her past ...
... I'm hoping the kids didn't lie and she was cleared

... if the kids love you that much, and you're the STABLE in their lives, and they know it, it'd keep you in the clear
... besides, why would YOU be the only to call CPS otherwise; (documented) that would automatically negate her accusation

... or so I'd think (again, dicey, as I said)

... oh, and I'm sorry you're even anywhere near a situation like this; it's almost impossible, I'm sure!

I think Thrash just wants some of this.



I wouldn't even know this show existed if not for Bevis and Butthead.

Not even on a bet.

The WHOLE CPS thing is shakey.

How do they differentiate between the fake drama-induced hotlines and

the ones where real abuse and neglect are happening?

It is such a difficult topic for me to discuss, and probably tons of other people, because I did neglect my kids.

Its been six years since my kids were taken from me and I can finally say that, without backing it up with some bullshit reason for why I neglected them.

I didn't abuse them. I was on drugs daily. I wasn't available for them. My kids ate, slept, played, got bathed, diapers changed.... but I was strung out and I didn't SHOW them I loved them.

I also had dangerous people around them all the time.

I used to say that someone should have taken them way before it actually happened.

Truthfully, I should have been taught better by my parents, not gotten hooked on dope, and made better choices.

There again, my parents didn't know what they were doing as new parents... But Who Is?

I don't blame anyone for my choices, actions or mistakes anymore.

I am sad that people are going through horrible shit.

I wish I could wrap the whole world in a band aid and a bunch of fuzzy blankets and feed it hot cocoa.

I have no idea why I am writing this, but it's ok that I am.

ct: I seriously cannot wait for my birthday ^.^
Less than a fortnight!

That said, I want this to become some countries national sport:

Now I know what career I want.

I wish I could wrap the whole world in a band aid and a bunch of fuzzy blankets and feed it hot cocoa.

Weirdly enough I do too sometimes.

But fuck no am I making that much hot chocolate. That'd take ages. They can make their own. ^.^

Especially if you add an egg and bring it to a boil like making really thin pudding. So rich and yummy..

I work for FEMA and I DO that, Rach ...
... It's not all it's cracked up to be; BELIEVE ME!

ct: I seriously cannot wait for my birthday ^.^
Less than a fortnight!

Happy Almost Birthday =)

I work for FEMA and I DO that, Rach ...
... It's not all it's cracked up to be; BELIEVE ME!

I wanna hug all the people who need hugs. Except the ones who just pretend to need a hug so they can grab boobs.

CT:


Clerks: Olaf Berserker

Yes Nitya, happy birthday.