The thought scares me. But, I am pretty certain she is getting to the point where she wants to know what "we are". Next week it'll be 5 months. It's also her birthday next week. I like my alone-time, and I don't want her to get all annoying if I do officially lay it out and tell her I'd like to be boy/girlfriend. Just because I tell her I want to be boy/girlfriend doesn't mean I want to spend every waking hour with her. Also, about two months ago she said one of the things she really likes about me is that I am not clingy. That is what I like about her too.
do all men think that women equate relationships with spending every goddamn waking moment together?
and if so, where did they get this dumb idea from?
it's just. not. true. at all. i don't really want to see any one person more than 3 or 4 days a week. i have to see my coworkers 5 days a week but not by choice. if i were in a relationship spending 3, sometimes 4 days or nights (whatever) together would be ideal. then, after we have been together for a while, maybe that amount could increase if both parties felt that way.
glad to be bagman's voice of reason, since he hasn't any.
2-3 times a week max for me, unless I guess, we're seriously serious and moving in together. I prefer once a week, or once every couple of weeks. I don't want us seeing each other to become mundane, and routine. I think keeping your space is healthy. In 5 months there hasn't been anything even resembling a fight, and neither of us have even been mildly annoyed at each other. It's all been good. That my friends, is because I know how to keep my space and we always look forward to seeing each other.
It's worked. This year I am 3 for 3 with the women I have dated. It was me who broke it off with "J" and it was me who broke it off with that uber-bossy Mexican girl I took on a few dates (who then proceeded to barrage me with texts, and wanted me to come back to her place) early this year, and now my current cutie is enthralled by me, and I her. So obviously whatever I have learned since the end of last year -- it's worked great. 100% of the time. It is no longer me getting ditched or kicked to the curb. I am doing the kicking. A lot of it is confidence, from overcoming the fear of the unknown.
Not really. If I have no more molloscum bumps, I am not contagious. They only transfer on skin-to-skin contact with bumps or from a towel, etc. that has the infection on it. I have no more bumps - and yes I check every night after my shower, thoroughly! I have also been washing my towels and sheets multiple times a week.
But that's not a definitive answer. It's just you playing by whatever rulebook you think applies.
It's not a medical test, where "positive" is bad and "negative" is good.
If I were a blind man and had to feel around for bumps like some book written in braille, sure I might be nervous about missing one. Molloscum is very easily seen, and if I don't see it, it's not there. All the doctor would do is look around my groin area JUST like I am doing - his eyes are no better than mine (with glasses), so why waste a co-pay and ignore the obvious.
considering how much time he's logged here, especially recounting his sexual (and non-) escapades, you'd think bagman might take a look at the core group of female posters and how we view our current and/or past relationships in forming an opinion of what women really want.
which of us has ever given him cause to believe women are clingy and obsessive and difficult to handle after hearing words like 'monogamy' or 'relationship' or even 'fisticuffs' for that matter? instead it seems he's lazily content to remain ignorant and rely solely on stereotypes of the supposed type of girlfriend that not only has he never had, but i believe is becoming more extinct as time goes by (or as these girls mature into young women, more likely).
Oh because that would be the smart thing to do, right? I would be basing my opinion on complete dysfunctionality. None of ye girls with an Anti-social lineage are right in the head.